Today, my husband Dylan and I celebrate our two-year wedding anniversary.
I never dreamed that I would find someone that would give me the butterflies, challenge me to be independent of him, hold space for my emotional ebbs and flows, support me in my creative endeavors, and be my little spoon at night. Dylan is a big part of who I am.
But, it doesn't come without its sacrifices. It's not always roses, or oranges in our case (lol). Every day we work on being a better partner to each other. So, I was thinking, with what we know now, what advice would we give ourselves two years ago?
We sat down together and came up with seven pieces of advice we would give our newlywed selves:
- You are not marrying yourself. You are marrying a unique person who has their own set of emotions, feelings, wants, needs, desires, history and fears. You may not always be able to fully empathize with your partner, but you can be fully present with them. Keep your communication open and flowing without judgments.
- Not only are you marrying your partner, but you are marrying their family. Stay optimistic in times of challenging family interactions, but learn your boundaries and stick to them.
- This one may be unique to our relationship, but the right time to share important news is the minute you find out.
- Pursue your passions fiercely and communicate those to your partner so that they can support you in achieving your goals.
- Caring for your partner does not have to be at the expense of caring for yourself. Create self-care practices and self-love rituals. Take time out from each other.
- On the other side of that coin, take time to nurture your relationship --- date nights, adventures, surprises, sexy anniversary photo shoots like this one (lol), etc.. Nurture that spark that started it all, and do it regularly!
- Start financial planning immediately! The sooner you start saving the better off you, your family, and your future is going to be. This year, Dylan and I talked with a financial advisor, bought life insurance policies, and started thinking about our endgame. Many people don't know where to start or even realize that financial planning is a thing (I know we didn't). This topic has become exceptionally important to me, and I'll be talking more about financial planning, savings and where to find help in an upcoming blog.
While this advice is very personal to our relationship, I think it is relevant and worthwhile to share. Can you relate? If one of these pieces of advice spoke to you I would love to know in the comments below.
Special thank you to Lisa Riley for helping us capture this anniversary memory on our Fallbrook farm. I haven't felt this beautiful and in love since our wedding day at the San Diego Botanic Garden! I think it's safe to say that there will be more photo shoots in Dylan and my future. :)
The Photography Team:
Photographer: Lisa Riley Photography
Editing: Jax Connolly Photo
Hair and Makeup: Karla Henry
Shoes and Accessories: H&M